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Extraordinary Woman: Heather Barrow

Posted on: November 29th, 2015 by Angela Ardolino No Comments

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High Risk Hope Founder Heather Barrow was just 24 weeks into pregnancy with her second child when her water broke and she went into labor. Doctors immediately prepared Barrow and her husband Bennett for the impending birth of her son Hill, warning he would have a 50 percent chance of survival and would certainly face some type of severe and permanent disability.

Preterm premature rupture of membranes at 24 weeks is rare, and the mother and baby’s life is at risk as long as the pregnancy continues. Barrow and Hill were closely monitored due to the potentially fatal risk of umbilical cord prolapse and infection. With the cushioning amniotic fluid between the baby and umbilical cord gone, any movement could cause the baby to roll on the cord and stop the flow of oxygen, resulting in brain damage or death.

Thanks to an excellent medical team, prayers, the support of loved ones and a positive outlook, Barrow remained pregnant for 59 days on complete hospital bed rest. To the surprise of an operating room full of nurses, obstetricians and neonatologists, Hill was born kicking and screaming at 32 weeks by an emergency C-section. Despite being born two months premature, and having no amniotic fluid for two months in utero, Hill needed no breathing support during his brief stay in the neonatal intensive care unit. Since his birth in 2009, Hill has met or exceeded every developmental milestone and has shown no complications related to Heather’s hospitalization or his premature birth.

Helping other mothers who may find herself in that situation has since become Barrow’s mission. Armed with determination, her experience and master’s and bachelor’s degrees in accounting from the University of Florida, Barrow founded High Risk Hope, a for purpose organization that provides support, encouragement, information and resources to women and families who are experiencing a high risk pregnancy resulting in hospital bed rest, potential premature birth and neonatal intensive care after delivery. Today, Barrow leads a team of non-compensated volunteers who reach out to more than 1,200 patients annually at St. Joseph’s Women’s Hospital and Tampa General Hospital.

As a result of High Risk Hope’s outreach in the Tampa Bay community, High Risk Hope was recognized as the 2015 Nonprofit of the Year by WEDU/PBS. Barrow, as founder and executive director, was recognized in 2014 as the Girl Scouts of West Central Florida Woman of Promise, in 2013 as a Tampa Bay Lightning Community Hero, as one of Tampa Bay’s “10 Leading Ladies” by Blu Tampa Bay, as an “Everyday Hero” by Bay News 9, and as a “Hometown Hero” by FOX 13 News.

What do you think is the secret to your family’s success?
We try to always do our best and not take success or ourselves too seriously. I tell my children, Claire and Hill, if at the end of every day they did more good than bad, it is a successful day.

What is your biggest fear?
The day someone I love becomes very ill.

What advice would you give to other women?
Ignore the negative chatter. There is a constant voice in my head saying I should be doing almost everything better. Whether it relates to raising my children or running High Risk Hope, I am my own worst critic. Sometimes it is spurred by misplaced criticism from someone in my inner circle or a negative comment from strangers on the Internet looking to stir up trouble. The bottom line is I am doing my best with the time and resources I have and that is enough. Every woman reading this article is doing enough too, ignore the haters, including you.

What is your proudest moment?
Every year since Hill was born, Bennett cooks (and our family delivers) Thanksgiving dinner to the high risk obstetric nurses and staff at St. Joseph’s Women’s Hospital. I am extremely proud that Claire and Hill have embraced this tradition and understand the importance of showing gratitude to the people that helped our family during our time of need.

What is your biggest achievement?
I was able to remain pregnant on complete hospital bed rest for over eight weeks. That extra two months gave Hill a fighting chance at a full life without severe disabilities. I am not sure I will accomplish anything more significant in my lifetime.

What makes you happy?
My husband Bennett, hearing my kids laugh, meeting healthy High Risk Hope babies, coffee and country music concerts.

How do you relax and take time for yourself?
I am working on doing this more. My main escape from the craziness is riding my bike several mornings a week on Bayshore, usually around sunrise.

What kind of message would you like to give women in the area?
The quote we live by in our home, and at High Risk Hope, is, “If your dreams do not scare you, they are not big enough,” by Ellen Johnson Sirleaf. I have it on my keychain and framed in the office. When I was pregnant with Hill, Bennett and I were terrified to hope we would leave the hospital with a healthy baby. Hill is now a healthy and normal six year old, breezing through Kindergarten. Almost every day over the past five years I have been terrified about what we were planning for High Risk Hope at any given time. From making our first hospital delivery at St. Joseph’s Women’s Hospital to moving into office space in Ybor City to our expansion to Tampa General Hospital to hiring our first employee, our biggest accomplishments were preceded by a large opportunity for failure. Make sure your dreams for your family, career and community are big enough to terrify you.

What else would you like to share?
I firmly believe to whom much is given, much is expected. My family was given a healthy baby, when for months we were uncertain Hill would survive. Although most families with healthy children do not have our unique history, they have the same gift to be thankful for. I want those families to remember the half million families in our country every year who deliver a premature baby who enters this world with an uncertain future. There is an opportunity right here in this community to give thanks for healthy babies by supporting families who were not as fortunate. High Risk Hope has ways for every member of your family to be involved in our fight for preemies.

What is your biggest inspiration?
My biggest inspiration is to try to be a role model for my children. I don’t always get it right but have realized if I am critical of my own appearance, parenting, accomplishments and relationships, then my kids will learn to mirror that criticism about them. If I tell them to be charitable and kind but do nothing to show them how, I cannot expect them to grow into charitable adults.

Karen Mertes

Posted on: November 1st, 2015 by Angela Ardolino No Comments

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Retired Air Force Lt. Col. Karen Mertes knows what it’s like to have your life suddenly altered. On Feb. 7, 2007, her life’s path was forever changed. Stationed at MacDill Air Force Base at the time, she was struck by a drunk driver who was traveling over 100 miles per hour on I-75. He had a blood alcohol level of .221, nearly three times the legal limit. During the crash, “I made a futile attempt to regain control of my vehicle as my car slid sideways down the interstate, with cars in the remaining lanes veering around my car to avoid hitting me. As my life hung in the balance, I made a bargain with God. I promised God that if I were blessed to live, I’d spend the rest of my life helping others. This promise was the genesis of my nonprofit Fulfill Your Destiny.”

Mertes suffered a traumatic brain injury (TBI) in the accident. But she is more than a survivor. She has turned tragedy into triumph, helping others who have had their world shattered pick up the pieces.

Through Fulfill Your Destiny, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit corporation, Lt. Col. Mertes financially aids people in the Tampa Bay community whose careers have been altered by injury or unforeseen circumstances. Special consideration is given to those who have sustained a traumatic brain injury.

“Imagine if you could no longer do what you are trained and experienced to do today.  What if everything you have worked for educationally and professionally was gone in an instant? This is my story. Following my injury and treatment, it became apparent I could no longer perform the work required of a military officer with a Top Secret clearance.”

She raises money for Fulfill Your Destiny in 11 ways, five of which involve offering a professional service or product for donation. “As a professional motivational speaker, I educate others about traumatic brain injuries, and I have my tax-deductible honorariums donated directly to Fulfill Your Destiny.”

Her motto is, Be Better Not Bitter, and she shares how people can do just that.

 What do you think is the secret to your success?

I believe character drives destiny. I believe in this so strongly that I’ve made it one of Fulfill Your Destiny’s mottos. I’ve spent a lifetime working hard and working smart. Working smart is great, but there is no substitution for working hard, really hard, to achieve your goals. Our Air Force’s core values of integrity first, service before self and excellence in all we do are the perfect fit for me and will remain with me for a lifetime.

My passion for helping others is evident as I donate all of my energies full-time to Fulfill Your Destiny and do not take a salary. I pay 100% of the administrative costs to operate it out of my personal funds. I also donate an additional 10% in honor of each donor, making the donor’s effective contribution 110%.

What is your biggest fear?

 It’s been said that fear means false evidence appearing real. It’s also been said that fear means forget everything and run, but I prefer face everything and rise. The choice is ours!  The key to being fearless is simply to choose to fear less.

What advice would you give to other women?

I’d like to share advice that was given to me during my sophomore summer in college when I attended the Air Force ROTC 4-week field training.  The instructor for my flight class urged me to never give up on the pursuit of my goals and achieving my dreams. His comments laid the foundation early on for me to work toward financial independence. It’s incredibly empowering to make all of my own financial decisions and not have to rely on anyone else. I also believe it makes me a stronger wife because my husband and I are true financial partners.

 What is your proudest moment?

My proudest moment in my military career came when I was serving as the Commander, 35th Comptroller Squadron and Chief Financial Officer at Misawa Air Base, Japan. I was the only commander (out of 18) to lead my squadron to an outstanding rating during the Headquarters Pacific Air Forces Unit Compliance Inspection, a feat matched in just 4 of 216 Comptroller Pacific Forces Inspections since 1970.

My proudest moments after my military career stem from choosing to be better not bitter after sustaining my traumatic brain injury. I’m dedicated to enriching lives, and I hope to inspire others living with permanent injuries by rising above my personal challenges to be an example for what focus, perseverance and determination can accomplish.

What is your biggest achievement?

I like to think that I’ve not achieved it yet as I have much left to accomplish.  I’m very proud though, of having served our country for just over 20 years.

What makes you happy?

I really enjoy seeing people smile. I strive each day to help people in our greater Tampa Bay community.  When others smile, and I know that I contributed to their happiness, that is pure joy for me.

How do you relax and take time for yourself?

My favorite season is autumn because it means that it’s craft fair season. I enjoy going to craft fairs in and around our greater Tampa Bay area, admiring all the amazing and creative works. I especially like the outdoor festivals. I like meeting people in this way and learning about their craft and how they spend their time. I’m also a big fan of Tampa’s Farmer’s Markets and food trucks.

I also enjoy taking cooking classes at the Rolling Pin Kitchen Emporium! To keep being at my best, I take Jazzercise classes as often as possible.

What kind of message would you like to give women in the area or in this community?

I recommend that all parents encourage their children to pursue the highest and best use of their talents and abilities. When I was growing up, girls were not encouraged to study math and science. I happen to have a natural ability and appreciation for math. I even competed on the math team in high school. This led to my receiving an Air Force ROTC full scholarship to major in mathematics (statistics) at Boston University. I attribute many of the successes I’ve achieved in my life to nurturing a skill set and following a non-traditional career path, at least for a woman. I’m very thankful to my parents for encouraging me to be the very best I could be at whatever I chose and to leap beyond my comfort zone!

What else would you like to share with our readers?

I’m the co-author of three books to date: Woman Power: Strategies for Female Leaders, The Power of Transformation: Reinventing Your Life and Fearless Women Visions of a New World. These books are available by suggested donation to Fulfill Your Destiny.

How do you enjoy or draw information from the magazine?

I appreciate that Tampa Bay Parenting gives information with names, dates, locations and descriptions of events and festivals in and around our greater Tampa Bay community. This information is a must-read for me.  I enjoy learning about our community in the What’s Happening section. I also like how the magazine showcases activities and events within each county.

What is your favorite thing to do in Tampa Bay?

My husband and I are members of Tampa’s Lowry Park Zoo, and we’ve adopted Cocoa, a resident sea turtle at the Clearwater Marine Aquarium!

 Who is your biggest inspiration or role model?

I’m very grateful to all the women who have served in our United States military before me and helped pave the way. Specifically, Major T. H. Baca, the first woman to officially serve as a commissioned officer in the National Guard, Army and military force, eventually rising to major and later appointed Assistant Adjutant General of New Mexico. I was presented an award named in her honor, the Major T. H. Baca Award for my contributions to women in the military.

I’m also inspired by individuals who have been confronted by life-changing events and have persevered. I’m a lifelong learner, embracing the lessons these people share with their stories of triumph.